The Gaslight Effect, Dr. Robin Stern
The Gaslight Effect, Dr. Robin Stern
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The Gaslight Effect
How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life

Author: Dr. Robin Stern

Narrator: Nan McNamara

Unabridged: 9 hr 34 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 01/09/2018

Includes: Bonus Material Bonus Material Included


Synopsis

In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works, how you can decide which relationships can be saved and which you have to walk away from—and how to gasproof your life so you'll avoid gaslighting relationship.

Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time.

Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back, you wonder if your mother is right and figure that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism.

If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from.

Are you being gaslighted? Check for these telltale signs:

1) Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse?

2) When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world?

3) Do you dread having small things go wrong at home—buying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar?

4) Do you have trouble making simple decisions and constantly second guess yourself?

5) Do you frequently make excuses for your partner's behavior to your family and friends?

6) Do you feel hopeless and joyless?

Includes a bonus PDF of appendices from the book.

About The Author

, has been a therapist for more than twenty years, specializing in issues of emotional abuse and psychological manipulation. She has been a keynote speaker at universities, and consults to schools, corporations, and nonprofit organizations. She teaches at Hunter College, Teachers College, and Columbia University and is also a leadership coach for faculty. She is a founding member of the Woodhull Institute for Ethical Leadership. She currently maintains a psychotherapy practice in New York City, where she lives with her husband and two children.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Sarah on May 06, 2015

The Gaslight is a 1940's film starring Ingrid Bergman. In it, she plays a woman whose husband seeks to gain control of her finances by convincing her, and everyone else, that she has gone mad. He moves things and insists that she moved them. He makes constant reference to her psychological frailty.......more

Goodreads review by Lauren on November 24, 2022

This book answered so many questions for me: why do these power struggles come up in different relationships? This book will give you the how and why, and also show you how you can opt out of it. You are part of the problem AND the solution. The book was easily laid out and was a compelling read. I......more

Goodreads review by kylajaclyn on April 28, 2018

Ironically, I think Dr. Stern is gaslighting her readers with this book!! Here’s the main problem I have... are women in gaslighting relationships needy, obsessive, and emotional? Is the Pope Catholic? Stern is adamant that our need for his approval (our gaslighter’s, not the Pope’s) is what is keep......more

Goodreads review by Katya on January 25, 2011

I've read a hundred pages today. This book is fantastic. I was a little worried that it would be another "you're a victim, poor you, you should run away" books, but I'm finding that it's really balanced and proactive. It seems really honest about how it takes TWO to tango. It honors both sides, whil......more

Goodreads review by Molly on January 12, 2009

I think that almost everyone could benefit from reading this book. My only major complaints are that it's a bit repetitive, and the gender-studies bit of my brain doesn't like that Stern chose to use "he" for those guilty of gaslighting and "she" for people who have been gaslighted. Granted, that mi......more


Quotes

Compassionate and honest in equal parts, the Gaslight Effect is like a sturdy, truth-telling friend in difficult times. Robin Stern will show you you’re not alone in your toxic relationship, and she’ll also help you identify your role and how to change–and be a stronger, wiser person as a result.”
 —Rachel Simmons, bestselling author of Odd Girl Out

An essential survival tool. In a clear, comforting, and sophisticated voice, therapist Robin Stern takes her psychologically abused readers on a step-by-step journey that will help them take control of their lives and their destinies.”
—Phyllis Chesler, PhD, author of Woman’s Inhumanity To Woman