Controlling People, Patricia Evans
Controlling People, Patricia Evans
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Controlling People
How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You

Author: Patricia Evans

Narrator: Xe Sands

Unabridged: 6 hr 34 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Tantor Media

Published: 06/29/2012


Synopsis

Does this sound like someone you know?

Always needs to be rightTells you who you are and what you thinkImplies that you're wrong or inadequate when you don't agreeIs threatened by people who are "different"Feels attacked when questionedDoesn't seem to really hear or see you

If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, bestselling author Patricia Evans tackles the "controlling personality" and reveals how and why these people try to run other people's lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior—even as they alienate others and often lose those they love.

Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern, or spell, be broken? Yes! says the author.

By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur.

Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.


About Patricia Evans

Patricia Evans is a highly acclaimed interpersonal communications specialist, public speaker, and consultant. She has appeared on hundreds of radio shows and dozens of television programs, including The Oprah Winfrey Show and CNN. She is the author of several books on the topic of verbal abuse, the first of which, The Verbally Abusive Relationship, was praised by Newsweek as "groundbreaking." Patricia lives in the San Francisco Bay Area.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Ruth on September 26, 2008

This book has some good ideas, but the theory that ties them together is not explained very clearly. Also, the terminology she creates for her theory is goofy and confusing. This is too bad, since the topic is an important one, and Evans does not demonize the controlling person, but talks about peop......more

Goodreads review by Jen on April 13, 2011

This book was SO helpful! The book says that ANY time a person believes they know what you think, feel, believe, etc., without you telling them, they are pretending. Pretending (in this way) is a sign of a controlling person. I have believed that other people can tell me what I think. What I feel. Who......more

Goodreads review by Blair on December 19, 2012

While I've seen some reviews that suggest that from a psychoanalytical point of view this book is weak, I found it tremendously valuable. I think the source of the disconnect in those reviews can be found in the goal of the book. This book is not about curing or fixing controlling people. It is mostl......more

Goodreads review by Leo on August 30, 2016

Useful. I haven't read a lot of books like this, but are they all like this? I mean to say that they hone in on certain psychologies and behaviours and break them down into understandable patterns (great) but in so doing, create a whole new vocabulary of terms-- Witness, Pretend Person, Teddy, The C......more

Goodreads review by Tammy on April 18, 2010

One of them books to go back to. A must read for people who have been made "crazy" by other people. Helps understand the mind of those sick people with the skills to make you crazy.......more