Born for Love, Bruce D. Perry
Born for Love, Bruce D. Perry
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Born for Love
Why Empathy Is Essential--and Endangered

Author: Bruce D. Perry, Maia Szalavitz

Narrator: Maia Szalavitz

Unabridged: 11 hr 42 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Mariner Books

Published: 11/04/2025


Synopsis

**Narrated by the Author**The groundbreaking exploration of the power of empathy by renowned child-psychiatrist Bruce D. Perry, coauthor, with Oprah Winfrey, of What Happened to You?“Empathy, and the ties that bind people into relationships, are key elements of happiness. Born for Love is truly fascinating.” — Gretchen Rubin, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness ProjectFrom birth, when babies' fingers instinctively cling to those of adults, their bodies and brains seek an intimate connection, a bond made possible by empathy—the ability to love and to share the feelings of others.In this provocative book, psychiatrist Bruce D. Perry and award-winning science journalist Maia Szalavitz interweave research and stories from Perry's practice with cutting-edge scientific studies and historical examples to explain how empathy develops, why it is essential for our development into healthy adults, and how to raise kids with empathy while navigating threats from technological change and other forces in the modern world.Perry and Szalavitz show that compassion underlies the qualities that make society work—trust, altruism, collaboration, love, charity—and how difficulties related to empathy are key factors in social problems such as war, crime, racism, and mental illness. Even physical health, from infectious diseases to heart attacks, is deeply affected by our human connections to one another.As Born for Love reveals, recent changes in technology, child-rearing practices, education, and lifestyles are starting to rob children of necessary human contact and deep relationships—the essential foundation for empathy and a caring, healthy society. Sounding an important warning bell, Born for Love offers practical ideas for combating the negative influences of modern life and fostering positive social change to benefit us all. It reveals how and why the brain learns to bond with others—and is a stirring call to protect our children from new threats to their capacity to love.

About Bruce D. Perry

Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D., is the senior fellow of the ChildTrauma Academy (www.ChildTrauma.org), a not-for-profit organization based in Houston that is dedicated to improving the lives of high-risk children, and he is an adjunct professor of psychiatry at the Northwestern University School of Medicine in Chicago. He is the author, with Maia Szalavitz, of The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, a bestselling book based on his work with maltreated children.

About Maia Szalavitz

Maia Szalavitz is the author of Help at Any Cost: How the Troubled-Teen Industry Cons Parents and Hurts Kids (Riverhead, 2006), which led to state investigations into the industry as well as federal legislation. She is a senior fellow at media watchdog STATS.org and has written for the New York Times, Elle, Time magazine online, and the Washington Post.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Thomas on August 08, 2015

"Will increasing empathy solve all the world's problems? Of course not. But few of them can be solved without it." And so ends Born for Love by Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz, a book about the nature of empathy and its importance in modern society. The authors examine the development of empathy in ba......more

Goodreads review by Tess on November 21, 2018

5- This is an important and well-written book. It's easy to read, although sad and poignant at times. I recommend it for anyone who has children in their life and wants to improve our collective future.......more

Goodreads review by Shannon on June 12, 2012

I didn't find "Born for Love" as tightly written as the authors' other effort "The Boy Who was Raised as a Dog"; there was a fair amount of repeated material within the book. Still, I enjoyed the book & there were many fascinating tidbits. The overall message is that relationships matter, love matte......more

Goodreads review by Miri on June 15, 2015

This book approached the issue of empathy from all sorts of angles: developmental psychology, sociology, history, etc. I thought the case studies the authors used to show how empathy develops (or doesn't) in children were particularly useful, and they also connected lack of empathy to economic inequ......more

Goodreads review by Morgan on June 03, 2023

There is a LOT of GREAT stuff in the book. But it’s a little dated as it was written in 2009, and grounded in psychology (as opposed to neuroscience as is the case with Dr. Perry’s other books), and as such I was (personally) a little board and underwhelmed despite the ABSOLUTELY life affirming messa......more