The Family Dynamic, Susan Dominus
The Family Dynamic, Susan Dominus
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The Family Dynamic
A Journey into the Mystery of Sibling Success

Author: Susan Dominus

Narrator: Susan Dominus

Unabridged: 11 hr 53 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 05/06/2025


Synopsis

What explains those rare families that boast multiple siblings who achieve extraordinary success? An award-winning New York Times journalist weaves story with science to explore the circumstances that set those families apart.

“At once clear-eyed and compassionate, The Family Dynamic uncovers how parents—and siblings—shape and fuel individual success.”—Lisa Damour, bestselling author of The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

An Olympic athlete. An award-winning novelist. A successful entrepreneur. All raised under one roof. What can we learn from those families whose children aim high and succeed, sometimes in widely varied fields? Just as important: What were the costs along the way, and what can we glean from their travails and triumphs?

The acclaimed New York Times journalist Susan Dominus offers compelling profiles of six such families in search of the factors that led to their success—was it an inherited quality, a specific way of parenting, the influence of a sibling, or a twist of luck? Inspired by the iconic Brontë sisters, whose remarkable literary success prompted endless speculation, Dominus, the mother of twin teenagers, sought out contemporary high-achieving families who shared intimate stories of their upbringing. She introduces us to the Chens, young parents who fled their country’s one-child policy to open a Chinese restaurant in Appalachia—then sent four children to elite colleges and on to careers that give back in technology and medicine; the Groffs, whose claim to fame is not just an award-winning novelist but an Olympic athlete and a notable entrepreneur; the Wojcickis, whose daughters made inroads as STEM pioneers in Silicon Valley; and the Murguias, who rose from exceptionally humble origins to become powerful jurists and civil rights champions. Woven into these and other stories is an account of centuries of scientific research into the ongoing question of nature versus nurture.

Elegantly written and extensively researched, The Family Dynamic is more than a checklist of how-to’s. It’s a deep and moving exploration of the complexity of family life and the rewards—and burdens—of ambition.

About The Author

Susan Dominus has worked for The New York Times since 2007, first as a Metro columnist and then as staff writer for The New York Times Magazine. In 2018, she was part of a team that won a Pulitzer Prize for public service for its reporting on workplace sexual harassment. She won a Front Page Award from the Newswomen’s Club of New York and a Mychal Judge Heart of New York Award from the New York Press Club. She has studied as a fellow at the National Institutes of Health and Yale Law School. Her article about menopause in The New York Times Magazine won a National Magazine Award in 2024. She teaches journalism at Yale University.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Sivaram on April 19, 2025

"The Family Dynamics" presents an intimate, layered exploration of how relationships within a family can shape — and sometimes shake — our identity. The author does a brilliant job of capturing the quiet tensions, unspoken histories, and deep love that maintains the family atmosphere The characters f......more

Goodreads review by Rachel on May 05, 2025

Wow is Susan Dominus a great writer. This book is absorbing and insightful and inspiring. I have so many highlights and tabs it looks like a textbook before an exam. So many gems! I have already taken so many thoughtful lessons for my own parenting journey, but it's also brought up some emotional mo......more

Goodreads review by Jodi on March 13, 2025

Susan Dominus is one of the best nonfiction narrative writers of her generation. She interviews with such deep empathy, and always manages to marry the emotional human story with scientific analysis in a way that is truly revelatory and memorable. That holds for The Family Dynamic, where each chapte......more

Goodreads review by Toby on March 12, 2025

I enjoyed so much about this book. Getting a peek inside other people’s family lives is always fascinating, but there’s something especially interesting about these particular families, whose kids went on to achieve great things. Some of these kids felt pressure; others just felt empowered. This is......more

Goodreads review by Ariel on May 12, 2025

A thoroughly astonishing book that will reframe your most basic assumptions about how families work. And as with everything Susan Dominus publishes, the writing is gorgeous, novelistic, transporting. Each of the families she chose is worthy of a book in their own right — just getting to meet them an......more


Quotes

“[W]onderfully engaging. . . . [Dominus] expertly interweaves stories of the Brontë sisters with those of contemporary families and academic studies on factors that contribute to children’s excellence. She makes clear that the current research provides no definitive set of answers to the cereal question. Instead, it hints at certain heuristics, which are illuminated by Dominus’s careful, detailed portraits.”The New York Times

The Family Dynamic will no doubt disappoint readers looking for bullet-pointed parenting-for-success tips. It’s just not that kind of book. It’s better. Dominus is smart, honest and wise, and at her best, very funny. Her findings offer a science-based reality check, while her fluid, artful writing can give parents a much-needed break.”The Washington Post

“I can think of no other book more helpful in understanding not just the inner workings of families, but how best to help children from all walks of life to thrive despite a world filled with challenges. Susan Dominus has given us all a brilliant gift.”—Robert Kolker, bestselling author of Hidden Valley Road

The Family Dynamic makes the idea of a ‘family culture’ feel tangible and real, as it elegantly explores the degree to which parents can (and just as often cannot) shape the people their children become.”—Rachel Aviv, bestselling author of Strangers to Ourselves

“This powerful book will ignite essential conversations about the often-hidden costs of pursuing success—a must-read for parents, educators, coaches, grandparents, and anyone shaping the next generation.”—Jennifer Breheny Wallace, bestselling author of Never Enough

“At once clear-eyed and compassionate, The Family Dynamic uncovers how parents—and siblings—shape and fuel individual success. This richly drawn portrait of family life is as captivating as it is insightful—I can’t wait for the world to read this book.”—Lisa Damour, bestselling author of The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

“Susan Dominus has given us an absolute stunner of a debut book. It would hardly surprise me if this book became a touchstone of family psychology—an exemplar of literary nonfiction, taught for many years to come.”—Jennifer Senior, Pulitzer Prize-winner and bestselling author of All Joy and No Fun

“A captivating book on how our early roots shape our later success. Susan Dominus serves up a delicious smorgasbord of rich stories and rigorous social science to illuminate how multiple kids in the same family go on to achieve great things.”—Adam Grant, bestselling author of Hidden Potential

“A brilliantly empathetic portraitist, Susan Dominus is the ideal writer to explore the mystery of family ambition. The perfect gift for the brother or sister who made you the person you are.”—Emily Nussbaum, Pulitzer Prize–winning culture critic and author of Cue the Sun!

“[The Family Dynamic is full of] compelling advice for those seeking guidance in setting up their children for success.”Kirkus Reviews

“Empathetic and written with a novelist’s knack for characterization, this entrances.”Publishers Weekly