The Dance of Intimacy
A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships

You can't fix a relationship by focusing on the relationship. Since it is an act of teamwork, it can never be controlled by only one of its parts, and can never be more than the sum of those parts. But when one individual envisions what a healthy relationship is, and creates and acts out that vision......more

I urgently read this to support myself in supporting others as a mediator and facilitator! The chapter on triangles was particularly helpful for the specific cases I’m navigating, and I also really appreciated the emphasis on self-focus. I’m sitting too with the lesson about the need to move slowly......more

Perfect book for improving one self on how to be intimate with others. I love the section on how to do self focus. I have a difficult time with this. I tend to do the whole "You do this and this.." whereas I need to focus on my self. "I feel this.." "I feel so and so.." I also like the section on se......more

The Dance of Intimacy is written as a guide for women who are seeking to deepen the intimacy in their important relationships. It had a lot of great advice and insight, and I found it to be equally applicable to my situation as a man. The author takes a perspective that is strongly feminist and also......more

It's a pity that I read this so many years after reading The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, because I no longer remember The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships well enough to tell you whether the two......more