Shanda, Letty Cottin Pogrebin
Shanda, Letty Cottin Pogrebin
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Shanda
A Memoir of Shame and Secrecy

Author: Letty Cottin Pogrebin

Narrator: Dina Pearlman

Unabridged: 14 hr 6 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Tantor Media

Published: 10/18/2022


Synopsis

An intimate memoir from a founding editor of Ms. magazine who grew up in a Jewish immigrant family mired in secrets, haunted by their dread of shame and stigma, determined to hide their every imperfection—and in denial or despair when they couldn't.

The word "shanda" is defined as shame or disgrace in Yiddish. This book, Shanda, tells the story of three generations of complicated, intense twentieth-century Jews for whom the desire to fit in and the fear of public humiliation either drove their aspirations or crushed their spirit.

In her deeply engaging, astonishingly candid memoir, author and activist Letty Cottin Pogrebin exposes the fiercely-guarded lies and intricate cover-ups woven by dozens of members of her extended family. Beginning with her own long-suppressed secret, the story spirals through the hidden lives of her parents and relatives—revealing the truth about their origins, personal traumas, marital misery, abandoned children, religious transgressions, sexual identity, radical politics, and supposedly embarrassing illnesses. While unmasking their charades and disguises, Pogrebin also showcases her family's remarkable talent for reinvention in a narrative that is, by turns, touching, searing, and surprisingly universal.

About Letty Cottin Pogrebin

Letty Cottin Pogrebin is a writer, activist, and national lecturer.

A founding editor and writer for Ms. magazine, Pogrebin is also the author of numerous books, including the novel, Single Jewish Male Seeking Soul Mate, the memoirs Deborah, Golda, and Me: Being Female and Jewish in America and Getting Over Getting Older, the novel Three Daughters, and the groundbreaking How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who's Sick. She is also the editor of the anthology Stories for Free Children and consulting editor on Marlo Thomas's Free to Be . . . You and Me.

Pogrebin's articles, op-eds, and columns have been published in a wide variety of print and online publications, including the New York Times, Time, The Nation, Ms., Huffington Post, Harpers Bazaar, Travel & Leisure, Moment, and the Forward.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Kathleen on September 29, 2022

Shanda reminds us that people used to be shocked by shocking things. Seems quaint in these days of too much information. Pogrebin tells tales of the lengths to which so many in her colorful mishpocha went in order to perform a lie or hide the truth. Some will cause you to gasp. Some are pretty funny......more

Goodreads review by Malka on August 31, 2022

A memoir that is universal, insightful, painful and yet at times hilarious. Everyone can relate to this fabulously told story about family shame and secrets written by cofounder of Ms. Magazine, Letty Cottin Pogrebin, whose activism for decades has enriched the lives of so many.......more

Goodreads review by Wendy on January 01, 2023

Some aspects of the book are interesting, and the author makes some good points about Jewish shame in particular, but most of the book reads as if she wrote down a long list of everything she was ever ashamed of in her entire life to take to synagogue on Yom Kippur, so as not to forget any of them w......more

Goodreads review by Kathy on January 15, 2023

I abandoned this book near the halfway point. Nineteen chapters of a very accomplished and intelligent woman (a co-founder of Ms. Magazine) moaning about how her parents hid the fact that her older sister was only a half sister, was all I could take. The book is ostensibly about the fear of “shanda”......more

Goodreads review by Karin on October 13, 2022

I found this book by my friend Letty Cottin Pogrebin both riveting and totally illuminating. Her story is both dramatic and human in ways we can all identify with because all our families have secrets. Letty has essentially given us permission to reexamine our family's history and tell their stories......more