Ordinary Insanity, Sarah Menkedick
Ordinary Insanity, Sarah Menkedick
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Ordinary Insanity
Fear and the Silent Crisis of Motherhood in America

Author: Sarah Menkedick

Narrator: Sarah Menkedick

Unabridged: 14 hr 53 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 04/07/2020


Synopsis

A groundbreaking exposé and diagnosis of the silent epidemic of fear afflicting new mothers, and a candid, feminist deep dive into the culture, science, history, and psychology of contemporary motherhood
 
Anxiety among mothers is a growing but largely unrecognized crisis. In the transition to mother­hood and the years that follow, countless women suffer from overwhelming feelings of fear, grief, and obsession that do not fit neatly within the outmoded category of “postpartum depression.” These women soon discover that there is precious little support or time for their care, even as expectations about what mothers should do and be continue to rise. Many struggle to distinguish normal worry from crippling madness in a culture in which their anxiety is often ignored, normalized, or, most dangerously, seen as taboo.
 
Drawing on extensive research, numerous interviews, and the raw particulars of her own experience with anxiety, writer and mother Sarah Menkedick gives us a comprehensive examination of the biology, psychology, history, and societal conditions surrounding the crushing and life-limiting fear that has become the norm for so many. Woven into the stories of women’s lives is an examination of the factors—such as the changing structure of the maternal brain, the ethically problematic ways risk is construed during pregnancy, and the marginalization of motherhood as an identity—that explore how motherhood came to be an experience so dominated by anxiety, and how mothers might reclaim it.
 
Writing with profound empathy, visceral honesty, and deep understanding, Menkedick makes clear how critically we need to expand our awareness of, compassion for, and care for women’s lives.

About Sarah Menkedick

Sarah Menkedick is a writer, editor, mother, and traveler. Fluent in French and Spanish, she has lived and worked in Mexico, France, China, and Japan and traveled across five continents. She holds a BA in history and history of science from the University of Wisconsin-Madison and an MFA in nonfiction from the University of Pittsburgh, where she taught nonfiction writing. She is a 2015–2016 Fulbright fellow in Oaxaca, Mexico. She is the founder of Vela, an online magazine of nonfiction writing by women. Her work has also appeared in Harper’s, Oxford American, Guernica, New Inquiry, and The Best Women’s Travel Writing and has been commended by The Best American Nonfiction Writing series.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Terzah on March 11, 2020

This amazing book did more than anything I've ever read on motherhood to explain why I've often felt so overwhelmed from day one as a mother--despite the facts that 1) I always wanted to be a mother and 2) love my now-13-year-old twins. It also explained why so many other mothers of my generation ac......more

Goodreads review by Patricia on April 26, 2020

Within the first two chapters, I couldn’t stop exclaiming out loud how desperately necessary this book is. Reading this book has been so thoroughly illuminating to my own experience giving birth twice in the United States within the past six years and so many times, I felt like a weight being lifted......more

Goodreads review by Laura on September 06, 2020

Very useful book about the paralyzingly fear that is common after birth. Good perspective about biology and evolution. Removed a star for the obvious bias against birth interventions, because as a person who has had a life saving (and frankly, wonderful) C section I am very tired of the “natural bir......more

Goodreads review by Christine on December 06, 2021

Wish I could give it 6 stars! A wonderful look at motherhood and the challenges women face. I read many pregnancy and parenting books, and this is the one I found to be the most accurate. It described parts of motherhood that everyone with a baby knows but doesn't say.......more

Goodreads review by Akirah on June 30, 2022

Maybe 4.5 stars. The anecdotes are so helpful and validating. The writing in between is a bit academic and dense. But I really enjoyed this book and am so glad I read it.......more


Quotes

"Searing...Menkedick is a skilled storyteller and her accounts of women from varied socioeconomic and racial backgrounds drive home how little society has to offer mothers."
—Susannah Cahalan, New York Times Book Review

"Explosive, keenly observed.... Meticulously constructed, the book interweaves personal narrative and profiles of new mothers with historical research and medical reporting." 
Library Journal, *starred review*

"Sarah Menkedick’s new book... is about fear, of course, and anxiety, but it’s also about community.... Nuanced and subtle: part research, but also part intimacy through the act of bearing witness."
Ploughshares

“Menkedick is a superb storyteller, and her writing is filled with remarkable scientific and literary references.”
Publishers Weekly

“A bold and ambitious book about the magnificent, messy transformation that is motherhood, and about the resilience of women. Menkedick explores with intellect and empathy what is expected of ‘good’ mothers, what we expect of ourselves, and the complicated entanglement of the two.”
—Rachel Friedman, author of And Then We Grew Up: On Creativity, Potential, and the Imperfect Art of Adulthood
 
“A stunningly researched, vulnerable and urgent book about the tightrope of motherhood in our broken and prejudiced society. Menkedick reveals the unbearable burden of maternal expectations and how the healthcare system routinely strips women of their agency. You will read these stories of the way mothers are ‘cared’ for in this country with bewilderment, with compassion, with rage, but also with the true belief in the possibility of things becoming different.”
—Lauren Markham, author of The Far Away Brothers
 
“This is an essential book I didn’t even know I needed, that filled in blanks I didn’t even know I had. Its urgent message should be spread far and wide, by anyone who works with mothers, lives with mothers, or plans to be a mother. It will leave you with a greater understanding of Mother, yes, but it will also make you feel less alone in the world.”
—Rachel Louise Snyder, author of No Visible Bruises