Mingling with the Enemy, Jeanne Martinet
Mingling with the Enemy, Jeanne Martinet
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Mingling with the Enemy
A Social Survival Guide for Our Divided Era

Author: Jeanne Martinet

Narrator: Jeanne Martinet

Unabridged: 5 hr 9 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 12/01/2020


Synopsis

From the bestselling author of The Art of Mingling, an essential how-to for navigating today’s conversational minefields.
 
We are living in a new social era: The Powder Keg Era. These days almost every subject leads straight to politics, and the conversation goes straight to hell. In a nation that is completely polarized, with most of us continually pummeled by social media and the 24/7 news cycle, our social lives are taking a hit.
 
It can happen anywhere: at a friend’s birthday bash, a wedding reception, the gym, your local cafe, or your family Thanksgiving dinner. Even a group Zoom with colleagues or office mates can be dangerous. Suddenly, what began as a perfectly innocent chat about chocolate cake or seasonal allergies takes a bad turn, and you find yourself in an ugly argument about genetically altered foods or the healthcare system. Every day the tensions among us seem to be rising; the ever-widening ideological chasm is hurting our ability to communicate. So, how can we learn how to converse with people who are on the “other side”—without anyone getting hurt?
 
With an insightful and down-to-earth sensibility, bestselling author Jeanne Martinet offers a practical and encouraging guide to navigating conversations in our current social climate. She illustrates easy-to-learn techniques and strategies to help you: keep your mind open, know your own triggers, pick the best topics, change course to avoid disaster, be an active listener, master the ability to yield without losing, employ humor and storytelling to ease tension, go undercover when necessary, be a brilliant subject changer, and find common ground. She also provides important tips on knowing when it’s time to take up the gauntlet and when it’s better to make a graceful escape.
 
We have to keep talking to each other at all costs. Social interaction is a positive force that we need in order to thrive, individually and as a society, especially in today’s fractured world. Learning to mingle with the “enemy” is about figuring out how to have conversations with people that may make us afraid or angry. It’s about recognizing the presumptions—even prejudices—we all have when coming into contact with certain people.
 
With the ultimate goal of teaching us how to connect with each other more fully, Mingling with the Enemy furnishes a road map for successfully traversing any and all hostile territories—without anyone getting blown up.

About Jeanne Martinet

JEANNE MARTINET is the author of eight books, including The Art of Mingling, which has sold more than 150,000 copies and been published in ten countries. She has been featured in such publications as The New York Times, Salon, The Boston Globe, Glamour and The Washington Post. She has shared her humor and mingling know-how on many TV and radio shows, including "The Today Show," "The CBS Early Show," NPR's "Morning Edition" and WNYC's "The Leonard Lopate Show." She lives, writes and mingles in New York City.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Nathalie on January 21, 2021

If there is ever a book for our age, this is the one. Most of the advice is common sense and seems obvious on paper. However, four years of bitter "civil-war-esque-brother-against-brother divisiveness have made this guide on civil, friendly and kind conversation a must. The author uses much humor an......more

Goodreads review by Trent on November 21, 2020

Mingling with the Enemy addresses a serious topic—how in these polarized times can we get along with each other—in an encouraging and affirmatively friendly manner. Jeanne Martinet shows how to avoid getting into contentious arguments across partisan divides with family, friends, or new acquaintance......more

Goodreads review by Breanne on May 17, 2021

Pretty let down by this book, I had high hopes when I read the intro that it was going to provide a solid guide on how to handle conversations with people who had opposing political views. Most of the points made were either obvious such as avoiding the conversation and switching topics or were so w......more

Goodreads review by Caroline on November 16, 2020

A refreshingly bright, witty, and helpful take on the challenges of our increasingly polarized times. What a relief to discover this book post-election and going into the holidays - it helped me recalibrate my assumptions and rediscover the joys of communication, even across the political divide. An......more

Goodreads review by Jennifer on December 05, 2021

3.5 stars I picked up this library book on a whim and found it had some great practical advice for navigating small talk in an era where online trolling is the norm and in-person social graces seem to be in short supply.......more