It's Good to Have a Wife
(it's also good to have a husband)

Somewhere in the last fifty years, men and women forgot how to need each other. We convinced ourselves that independence was the highest virtue, that marriage was optional, that gender roles were oppression, and that the ancient partnership between husbands and wives was a relic best left in the past.How's that working out?Marriage rates are at historic lows. Birth rates are collapsing. A generation of women have optimized their lives for singleness and can't figure out why their perfect apartments feel so empty. A generation of men have been told their masculinity is toxic and now drift through life without purpose, direction, or a reason to grow up. Everyone's on dating apps, nobody's committing, and the therapy industry has never been busier.This book explores:• Why the traditional "gender bargain" between men and women emerged in the first place and why it worked better than we want to admit• How the pursuit of independence became a trap that left everyone lonely• Why "finding yourself" before commitment is a myth that keeps you waiting for a moment that never arrives• Why delaying marriage and children until you're "ready" usually means delaying until it's too late• How two people optimized for singleness can't figure out how to share a thermostat, let alone a life• Why your therapy bills are so high (hint: it's usually your family)This isn't a book about going back to 1950. It's not a religious sermon or a political manifesto. It's a practical, evidence-based argument for an unfashionable truth: human beings aren't designed to go it alone. It's Good To Have a Wife is a sharp, slightly irreverent and refreshingly honest look at what broke and what it would take to fix it.