How Not to F*** Them Up

Name: How Not to F*** Them Up
Brand: Penguin Random House UK
Availability: InStock
Author: Oliver James
ISBN: 9781448160440

Author: Oliver James

Narrator: Paul Blake

Unabridged: 10 hr 53 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: RH AudioGo

Published: 12/06/2012

Categories: Nonfiction, Family & Relationships, Parenting, Cooking

Synopsis

As a mother, are you comfortable in your skin?
Want to know how best to be a working or stay-at-home mum?

Babies have very simple needs, yet many parents are overwhelmed with elaborate advice on how to meet them. In How Not to F*** Them Up, leading child psychologist Oliver James argues that your under-threes do not need training; it's getting your head straight as a parent that's important.

Drawing on extensive interviews and the lastest clinical research, James identifies three basic types of mum: the Hugger, the Organiser and the Fleximum. Outlining the benefits and pitfalls of each, How Not to F*** Them Up shows you how to recognise which style suits you best and outlines simple strategies to reconcile personal ambitions with the needs of your family.

Empowering and provocative, Oliver James will help you make the best choices for bringing up a happy, confident child.

Reviews

Goodreads review by Stephen on January 05, 2012

I read this book whilst my wife was pregnant. We now have a happy 5 month old little man. In a nutshell there are two styles of parenting a baby: 1) the baby is made to adapt to the parents lifestyle; or 2) the parents adapt o the babies lifestyle. To let the baby cry or not let the baby cry: that i......more

Goodreads review by Tania on January 09, 2022

Efectiv m-am luptat sa citesc aceasta carte pana la sfarsit. Nu stiu daca asta se datoreaza faptului ca aveam asteptari mai mari de la ea, sau pentru ca am simtit pe tot parcursul cartii ca autorul judeca fiecare alegere pe care o iau mamele. Spun mamele pentru ca de-a lungul cartii autorul parca ui......more

Goodreads review by MargeryK on July 01, 2011

This is an interesting expansion of his earlier work, 'Affluenza' (which I love), and most likely 'They F*** You Up' (which I haven't read). Oliver James presents readers with three types of mother: the Hugger, the Organiser and the Fleximum. To over-simplify and summarise, the Hugger is a stay-at-h......more

Goodreads review by Katie on May 01, 2018

This book is going to be upsetting for some because of the authors comments about day care and working mums. ....howevveeerrr as a work from home "hugger" style mum I found his confirmation that I am doing the right thing and advice about how to ignore the (frequent) critique I get from "organiser" s......more

Goodreads review by Grace on April 22, 2012

If I could have given a 2 & a half I would have. I found this book interesting and do agree with some of his theories if not all, however I thought it was badly written and felt like it had been rushed and not edited properly. There's quite a lot of repetition and occasionally I could see what he wa......more

Quotes

Easily readable, liberating ... a book you can trust. The Independent

In a perfect world every parent would have a parenting masterclass before the baby arrives. This is the next best thing! Arabella Weir

At last, something for the modern mother! A sane voice amid the shrill cacophony of childcare books Imogen Edwards-Jones

I agree with Oliver James. Caring for a baby or toddler is personal, because you have to tune in to the child's changing needs. The Times

Unlike other books of this sort, How Not to F*** Them Up focuses on the wellbeing of the parent as a starting point for meeting the needs of the child... This is a man who wears his heart on his sleeve, and is not afraid to admit his own frailties. As a result his theories come across not as condescension, but as advice from one fucked-up-person to another. The Independent on Sunday

... it is obvious that James is truly on the side of women and creating a society in which parenting and the issues it raises are shared between both partners. The Times Magazine

Hugely gripping... it certainly makes you think. Angels and Urchins

[Oliver James] does a great job of describing some of the problems in modern society and how the demands of the 21st century can affect a person's happiness... [he] uncovers the answer to how to reconnect with what really matters and learn to value what you've already got. In other words, how to be successful and stay sane. Amazon

Advice that focuses on training you - the parents - rather than your kids. A refreshing approach. Easy Living