Unshaming, Jowita Bydlowska
Unshaming, Jowita Bydlowska
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Unshaming
A Memoir of Recovery, Relapse, and What Comes After

Author: Jowita Bydlowska

Narrator: Jowita Bydlowska

Unabridged: 8 hr 18 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Steerforth

Published: 03/31/2026


Synopsis

The author of Drunk Mom continues her “bravely and beautifully told” story of alcohol addiction in this raw, unsparing memoir about shame and relapse (Lena Dunham)

Honest and grimly funny—with actionable advice for readers of addiction memoirs like Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly and Sarah Hepola’s Blackout

It’s been over a decade since Jowita Bydlowska published her lightning rod of a memoir on overcoming alcohol addiction as a young mother. Both hailed and criticized for its no-holds-barred transparency, Drunk Mom was—and continues to be—refreshing and revelatory in its gritty exploration of addiction recovery and relapse in the context of new motherhood.

But what happens after the last page is turned, after the “happy ending” of an addiction the world assumes is safely in the rearview? When Bydlowska relapses after the success of her book, her overwhelming sense is one of shame. She struggles to reconcile the knowledge that she’s helped bring comfort and hope to countless readers with her own frustration and mounting fear that the truth will only let others down.

In prose that's by turns harsh and beautiful, tender and devastating, she writes about her ensuing spiral into alcoholism—and the climb back up and out. With the same generosity and grim humor that made Drunk Mom a standout, Bydlowska uses her own story as a vehicle to interrogate and challenge the narrative surrounding addiction, exploring the ways in which the conversation has both evolved and stayed the same over the last decade.

About The Author

Jowita Bydlowska is the author of the memoir Drunk Mom, and the novels Guy, Possessed, and Monster. She's also a prolific short-story writer, journalist, and a professor at the Creative School at Toronto Metropolitan University. She was born in Warsaw, Poland and came to Canada as a teenager. She lives in Toronto with her son and their chihuahua.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Elisa on April 08, 2026

Im here because i lost my dad to alcoholism 3 months ago. Shame has been taking from my family for as long as i can remember. this book called to me as a way to understand my dad better- to understand myself better. I want to give the author a big hug for putting this all into words, weaving in theo......more

Goodreads review by Shannon on March 24, 2026

An honest memoir about a viral 'drunkmom' who became sober and her story of relapse, hitting rock bottom (again) and crawling her way towards sobriety. She talks a lot about shame (internalized and societal), forgiveness, her strained relationships with her child, co-parent and partner and how she b......more

Goodreads review by J.J. on March 13, 2026

Typically, I’m not much of a memoir reader. Before “Unshaming,” I hadn’t read a memoir since Paul Auster’s “Report From the Interior.” The common thread here is that both Auster and Bydlowska are exceptionally talented writers of fiction. Although it was her previous memoir, the best-seller “Drunk M......more

Goodreads review by Kristen on April 16, 2026

Unshaming: A Memoir of Recovery, Relapse, and What Comes After is a raw, unflinching, and deeply reflective exploration of addiction, relapse, and the complex reality of recovery. One of the most compelling aspects of the book is its honesty. Jowita Bydlowska doesn’t shy away from the uncomfortable t......more

Goodreads review by Treena on April 08, 2026

Among the many arresting sentences and images in Jowita Bydlowska's beautifully searing memoir Unshaming, this one has a special grip on me: "You are the drunkard on your own planet." Not because Artemis 2 has taken four humans the furthest away we've ever been from Earth. But because I was an astro......more


Quotes

"Bydlowska’s confessional tone and trenchant self-reflection make the memoir an excellent read... overall, this is a page-turner that’s full of vulnerability and heart. A poignant memoir about addiction, shame, and recovery."
Kirkus Reviews

"Bydlowska writes with humility and lucidity about the mercurial nature of addiction, avoiding easy platitudes or excessive self-regard as she details the hard work of maintaining sobriety... Her generous and frank chronicle will, like Drunk Mom before it, resonate with readers battling demons of their own."
—Publisher's Weekly

"Sobriety is a rickety roller coaster in the powerful memoir Unshaming, about addiction, recovery, and regret."
—Foreword Reviews

"Unshaming at times tests the bounds of a reader’s comfort, but it feels like that’s precisely the point... Bydlowska has a distinctive narrative voice and she powerfully lays bare her personal experience with – and feelings around – alcohol, and the shame of being a “chronic relapser,” and in doing so offers healing, freedom, and empathy to those who have grappled with these kinds of feelings themselves – addiction-related or otherwise."
—Quill & Quire