This Is Not About Us, Allegra Goodman
This Is Not About Us, Allegra Goodman
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This Is Not About Us
Fiction

Author: Allegra Goodman

Narrator: Kimberly Farr

Unabridged: 12 hr 11 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 02/10/2026


Synopsis

NATIONAL BESTSELLER • A kaleidoscopic portrait of a modern American family—steadfast, complicated, begrudging, and loving—from the bestselling author of Isola

“Wise, witty . . . a deliciously readable book [about] the delicate minutiae of family life, played beautifully, boldly, brightly in a major key.”—The New York Times Book Review (Editors’ Choice)

“Goodman’s mature and deftly written book suggests that, in family as in art, there is no such thing as uncomplicated happiness.”—The Wall Street Journal

Was this just a brief skirmish, or the beginning of a thirty-year feud? In the Rubinstein family, it could go either way.

When their beloved sister passes away, Sylvia and Helen Rubinstein are unmoored. A misunderstanding about apple cake turns into a decade of stubborn silence. Busy with their own lives—divorces, dating, career setbacks, college applications, bat mitzvahs and ballet recitals—their children do not want to get involved. As for their grandchildren? Impossible.

With This Is Not About Us, master storyteller Allegra Goodman—whose prior collection was heralded as “one of the most astute and engaging books about American family life” (The Boston Globe)—returns to the form and subject that endeared her to legions of readers. Sharply observed and laced with humor, This Is Not About Us is a story of growing up and growing old, the weight of parental expectations, and the complex connection between sisters—a big-hearted book about the love that binds a family across generations.

Reviews

Goodreads review by Karen on December 13, 2025

A story about a Jewish American family, the Rubenstein’s. Helen, Sylvia, and Jeanne are elderly sisters, Jeanne, the youngest is dying of cancer at the start of the novel , at her funeral gathering, Sylvia bakes an apple cake and Helen is furious saying that is her own cake recipe. This argument keep......more

Goodreads review by Betsy on October 19, 2025

This is a saga of an extended family—Jewish Americans—that will appeal to people who live by the maxim, explicit or implicit, that "family is everything." It is beautifully written and each chapter is as cohesive as a short story, so if you can't remember who everybody is in relation to the others, n......more

Goodreads review by Meagan on January 16, 2026

3.5 rounding to 4 Expect a meandering family saga with a lot of characters and not much “plot.” It was good, but not great.......more

Goodreads review by Cindy on February 16, 2026

After loving Isola, I was excited to dive into this one. This Is Not About Us is a layered, very witty, sometimes tender look at generations of an American Jewish family—and all the drama that comes with them. At the center are the Rubinstein sisters, elderly and stubborn, whose long-simmering feud f......more

Goodreads review by Summer on January 11, 2026

This is Not About Us takes a deep dive into the multigenerational Rubenstein family who come together after the death of their sister. The story explores the intricacies and complexities of each familial relationship. This is Not About Us is written uniquely, and each chapter tells the story of a di......more


Quotes

“An all-too-real portrait of a loveable, complicated family’s drama.”—People

“In this vibrant collection of linked stories . . . Allegra Goodman dissects the foibles and fantasies of her cast, from the three founding sisters to their offspring and offspring’s offspring.”Time

“I . . . devoured this tasty novel in two large gulps. It’s the funny and moving saga of a large Jewish family. We can all identify with the humor and the drama. It’s a book filled with love. When Allegra Goodman cooks up a new novel, you can’t go wrong.”—Judy Blume

“Allegra Goodman’s new novel is her crowning glory (so far). This is Not About Us delivers a funny and moving Jewish family saga.”—The Boston Globe

“Goodman overlaps characters and storylines, repeatedly, from different perspectives and the reader is treated to experiencing the family as a symphony, not necessarily a harmonious arrangement, but satisfying all the same as an excellent read.”—Association of Jewish Libraries Reviews

“The arbiter of Jewish American family tsuris . . . Goodman has been wowing readers since her undergraduate days at Harvard, in the late 1980s.”Hadassah Magazine

“An absorb­ing, endear­ing, and inti­mate new work of linked fiction . . . Through this mas­ter­ful­ly woven mosa­ic . . . a relat­able por­trait of an Amer­i­can Jew­ish fam­i­ly with all its atten­dant mishe­gas takes shape.”—Jewish Book Council

“This is a volume that builds and surprises on many fronts, the cacophony of love and discontent reifying into filigreed depictions of the familial ties that bind.”—Vogue

“An entertaining ride—poignant and funny by turns. Goodman, always talented, is now a virtuoso, limber and graceful. She handles her sprawling cast with a sure, light touch, and her bantering dialogue is never trivial or canned.”—The Washington Post

This Is Not About Us is my favorite kind of read—it’s not a novel, it’s not a short story collection, it’s a book of linked stories that together add up to a big, messy, richly textured modern family drama.”—Jenny Rosenstrach, Three Things Substack

“Goodman’s insight into the intimate machinations of a domestic life is absolutely perfect.”—Literary Hub

“Goodman delivers a bighearted linked story collection about a family’s travails. . . . In their messiness and constant striving for harmony, the Rubensteins are wholly relatable.”Publishers Weekly, starred review

“A beautiful story of generations of a complicated family.”—Town & Country

“Goodman offers an unsparingly frank, wryly funny take on a multigenerational American family. Like an exquisitely baked apple cake, Goodman’s delicious and deeply perceptive novel is something to savor.”Kirkus Reviews, starred review

“Astute, incisive, and soulfully witty, Goodman circulates among her irresistible characters to that each intriguing point of view reveals another facet of their tumultuous family dynamic.”Booklist, starred review

“A memorable, multifaceted portrait of a family’s highs and lows.”Book Page