This Is Body Grief, Jayne Mattingly
This Is Body Grief, Jayne Mattingly
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This Is Body Grief
Making Peace with the Loss That Comes with Living in a Body

Author: Jayne Mattingly

Narrator: Jayne Mattingly

Unabridged: 7 hr 58 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Penguin Audio

Published: 03/18/2025


Synopsis

"We all need an opportunity to sit gently and thoughtfully with our grief. Consider this book your invitation."—Rachel Cargle, author of A Renaissance of Her Own

A guide to living and making peace with your ever-changing body

Have you ever felt like your body has failed you? Maybe you’re not as quick or as strong as you used to be, or an illness has wrecked your sense of self, or no matter what diet you follow, you still feel uncomfortable in your own skin. So you go to war with your body for what it can no longer do—when the truth is, our bodies are always on our side.

In This Is Body Grief, disability advocate and recovery expert Jayne Mattingly lays out a groundbreaking approach to mourning and accepting one’s ever-changing body. Like all grief, she says, Body Grief cannot be overcome but felt in all its complexity. Dismantling the narrative that your body is “against you,” she presents new ways to cope with your body's fluctuating abilities with self-compassion and grace. Along the way, she walks you through the seven stages of Body Grief—from dismissal, shock, and self-blame to hopelessness and hope, and eventual body trust—offering wisdom for how to make space for each difficult emotion as it arises.

Sharing stories from everyday people in the throes of Body Grief as well as her own journey as a newly-disabled woman—from the first of many harrowing hospital visits that resulted in her own life-altering diagnosis, to having to use a rollator on her wedding day because she could no longer walk safely on her own, to accepting the need for a hysterectomy in her early 30s—Mattingly shows that although healing isn’t a linear journey, it begins when we trust and work in tandem with our bodies.

About The Author

Jayne Mattingly is a disability advocate and eating disorder recovery coach. She is the CEO of Recovery Love and Care, a global virtual eating disorder recovery coaching curriculum and training program. She is also the Founder of the nonprofit The AND Initiative, which aims to provide inspiration, advocacy, resources, support, and the gifting mobility aids to those with chronic illness and physical disabilities. Jayne lives in South Carolina with her husband and pets.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Ace✨ on March 29, 2025

5/5 I needed to read this right now. I'm personally suffering through terrible sciatic pain making it so I can barely walk. I'm only 31 and the amount of rude/judgy people I see, for using a cane is horrific. Not only that being a plus sized woman, it's even worse. This is one book that will probably......more

Goodreads review by Elaine on April 13, 2025

I absolutely LOVED this book. Highly recommend to anyone dealing with chronic illness or disability.......more

Goodreads review by Pippa on May 02, 2025

As somebody with an energy limiting condition that requires careful pacing, “what will I get out of this, and what will it take from me?” is the hero quote from this book for me. An interesting and original look at the relationship we each have with our bodies and the different stages we move throug......more

Goodreads review by Ali on May 17, 2025

This is such a needed, important book for us to start and keep talking about body grief. It felt like a companion from start to finish, and I can’t wait to pass it on to someone else who also needs it.......more

Goodreads review by Kathie on February 06, 2025

Beautiful deeply personal stories shared and explained to help all of us deal with our inevitable body grief that comes with being human! A wonderful lesson on accepting who we are and moving forward to be our best selves! I highly recommend this book to anyone who is working to embrace their physical......more


Quotes

"We all need an opportunity to sit gently and thoughtfully with our grief. Consider this book your invitation." —Rachel Cargle, author of A Renaissance of Her Own

"In a world that teaches us to ignore, control, or conquer our bodies, Jayne Mattingly intervenes with a much-needed revision to the default framework. Through her own hard-earned wisdom and professional expertise, she offers us language and tools to mend the fractured relationships we’ve developed with our own bodies. She guides us—gently, powerfully, and tangibly—through the process of building a sturdy home within the only bodies we’ll ever have—a desperately needed map for every single one of us." —Rebekah Taussig, PhD, author of Sitting Pretty

"I laughed, I cried, and I related all while reading This Is Body Grief. Jayne beautifully articulates the universal feeling of Body Grief and explores it on both macro and micro levels. It is the perfect blend of informative and vulnerable." —Jacqueline Child, co-founder of Dateability

"As a Black disabled woman, Body Grief is my daily story. Mattingly reminds us that 'without storytelling there is no healing,' validating why it is important to listen to the stories our bodies tell us. Read this book to heal in your own way. To be angry. To share. To accept. To celebrate and to love your body unconditionally amongst the continuous grief it brings." —Dr. Akilah Cadet, MPH, author of White Supremacy Is All Around

"Beautifully written and unapologetically honest, This Is Body Grief not only dismantles the false narrative that our bodies are against us, but offers a compassionate path through the messy landscape of grief turned inwards. This book is for anyone who’s ever felt uncomfortable in their own skin and wants to reclaim their sense of self." —Ciera Rogers, founder of Babes and author of The Outsider Advantage