The Myths of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky
The Myths of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky
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The Myths of Happiness
What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does

Author: Sonja Lyubomirsky

Narrator: Kathy Keane

Unabridged: 7 hr 29 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Penguin Audio

Published: 01/03/2013


Synopsis

Happiness expert Sonja Lyubomirsky’s research-based lessons in how to find opportunity in life’s thorniest moments

In The Myths of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky isolates the major turning points of adult life, looking to both achievements (marriage, children, professional satisfaction, wealth) and failures (singlehood, divorce, financial ruin, illness) to reveal that our misconceptions about the impact of such events is perhaps the greatest threat to our long-term well-being.

Lyubomirsky argues that we have been given false promises—myths that assure us that lifelong happiness will be attained once we hit the culturally confirmed markers of adult success. This restricted view of happiness works to discourage us from recognizing the upside of any negative life turn and blocks us from recognizing our own growth potential. Our outsized expectations transform natural rites of passage into emotional land mines and steer us to make toxic decisions, as The Myths of Happiness reveals.

Because we expect the best (or the worst) from life’s turning points, we shortsightedly place too much weight on our initial emotional responses. The Myths of Happiness empowers readers to look beyond their first response, sharing scientific evidence that often it is our mindset—not our circumstances—that matters. Central to these findings is the notion of hedonic adaptation, the fact that people are far more adaptable than they think. Even after a major life change—good or bad—we tend to return to our initial happiness level, forgetting what once made us elated or why we felt that life was so unbearable. The Myths of Happiness offers the perspective we need to make wiser choices, sharing how to slow the effects of this adaptation after a positive turn and find the way forward in a time of darkness.

In The Myths of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky turns an empirical eye to the biggest, messiest moments, providing readers with the clear-eyed vision they need to build the healthiest, most satisfying life. A corrective course on happiness and a call to regard life’s twists and turns with a more open mind, The Myths of Happiness shares practical lessons with life-changing potential.

About The Author

Sonja Lyubomirsky, PhD, is a professor of psychology at the University of California, Riverside. She received her BA from Harvard University and her PhD in social psychology from Stanford University. Lyubomirsky and her research have been the recipients of many honors, including the 2002 Templeton Positive Psychology Prize and a multiyear grant from the National Institute of Mental Health. She lives in Santa Monica, California, with her family.Kathy Keane is a professional voice-over actress and narrator. She earned a bachelor's degree in English literature from the University of Albany and worked for more than ten years as a theater producer, writer, and performer.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Farah

The underlying message of this book: We adapt. Human beings have a tremendous capacity to adapt to new things or circumstances. This phenomenon is called hedonic adaptation. Therefore, ruminating about bad stuffs and being scared of an absence of good stuffs in our life don't make sense. Because huma......more

Goodreads review by Cara

I found this book's topic refreshing. The author takes a series of "I can't be happy if/when... (fill in the blank)" fallacies and lays them to rest. Using the theory of hedonic adaptation - our tendency to get used to almost anything positive that happens to us - she argues that certain adult achie......more

ไม่มีสูตรวิเศษใดๆ สำหรับความสุขและไม่มีเส้นทางใดตายตัวสำหรับความทุกข์เศร้าหมองใจ ไม่มีอะไรในชีวิตที่จะบันดาลความสุขหรือความทุกข์ให้อย่างที่เราคิด การเข้าใจถึงคุณค่าของข้อเท็จจริงในข้อนี้ ไม่เพียงแต่จะช่วยปลดปล่อยเราให้เป็นอิสระ ทำให้เราเป็นตัวของตัวเองมากขึ้น และทำให้เรามีโลกทัศน์กว้างไกล แต่ยังทำให้......more

Goodreads review by Graeme

This book provides a refreshing new vantage point on the major turning points of adult life: marriage, children, career, wealth. It also shows new strategies for dealing with life’s failures: singlehood, divorce, financial problems, illness, etc. The author reveals some major misconceptions about th......more


Quotes

"In this thought-provoking volume, Lyubomirsky... examines happiness and conventional notions about how it's nurtured in relationships, at work, and in one's own psyche...Lyubomirsky demonstrates that positively reframing life events can mine the best out of even the darkest situations. Provocative and fresh."
Publishers Weekly

"Informative and engaging….The author examines how the 'shoulds' of happiness not only undermine well-being, but also make it hard for individuals to cope with the sometimes difficult realities of adulthood."
Kirkus Reviews

"No matter what your personal world is like, The Myths of Happiness will change the way you approach your daily life. Lyubomirsky's thorough research and practical solutions will not only add joy and contentment to your life, but will also allow you to take on issues that you may have been sweeping under the rug for too long."
Woodbury Magazine

"In her new book, The Myths of Happiness, Dr. Lyubomirsky describes a slew of research-tested actions and words that can do wonders to keep love alive."
—Jane Brody, New York Times