Ma and Me, Putsata Reang
Ma and Me, Putsata Reang
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Ma and Me
A Memoir

Author: Putsata Reang

Narrator: Putsata Reang

Unabridged: 11 hr 21 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 05/17/2022


Synopsis

"Putsata Reang's quiet narration of her beautiful, poignant memoir holds both deep compassion and raw pain. Reang's ability to capture both her own and her mother's histories, desires, and dreams--in her voice and her prose--is remarkable." -AudioFile on Ma and Me

This program is read by the author.

"A nuanced mediation on love, identity, and belonging. This story of survival radiates with resilience and hope." —Publishers Weekly, starred review

"This openhearted memoir . . . opens the door to include queer descendants of war survivors into the growing American library of love.” —Sarah Schulman, author of Let the Record Show

When Putsata Reang was eleven months old, her family fled war-torn Cambodia, spending twenty-three days on an overcrowded navy vessel before finding sanctuary at an American naval base in the Philippines. Holding what appeared to be a lifeless baby in her arms, Ma resisted the captain’s orders to throw her bundle overboard. Instead, on landing, Ma rushed her baby into the arms of American military nurses and doctors, who saved the child's life. “I had hope, just a little, you were still alive,” Ma would tell Put in an oft-repeated story that became family legend.

Over the years, Put lived to please Ma and make her proud, hustling to repay her life debt by becoming the consummate good Cambodian daughter, working steadfastly by Ma’s side in the berry fields each summer and eventually building a successful career as an award-winning journalist. But Put's adoration and efforts are no match for Ma's expectations. When she comes out to Ma in her twenties, it's just a phase. When she fails to bring home a Khmer boyfriend, it's because she's not trying hard enough. When, at the age of forty, Put tells Ma she is finally getting married—to a woman—it breaks their bond in two.

In her startling memoir, Reang explores the long legacy of inherited trauma and the crushing weight of cultural and filial duty. With rare clarity and lyric wisdom, Ma and Me is a stunning, deeply moving memoir about love, debt, and duty.

About Putsata Reang

Putsata Reang is an author and a journalist whose writings have appeared in The New York Times, Politico, The Guardian, Ms, and The Seattle Times, among other publications. Born in Cambodia and raised in rural Oregon, Reang has lived and worked in more than a dozen countries, including Cambodia, Afghanistan, and Thailand. She is an alum of residencies at Hedgebrook, Kimmel Harding Nelson, and Mineral School, and she has received fellowships from the Alicia Patterson Foundation and Jack Straw Writers Program. She teaches memoir writing at the University of Washington's School of Professional & Continuing Education.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Emma Deplores Goodreads Censorship on August 13, 2022

I do generally enjoy young immigrant memoirs, but this particular one didn’t work for me. Almost certainly in part because it’s not very analytical; I love memoirs by authors who can dig deep into understanding their own and others’ feelings and behaviors, while this one doesn’t go much beyond the s......more

Goodreads review by johnny on July 18, 2023

wow, just wow. this memoir was amazing, one of the best memoirs i have ever read. putsata reang tells two stories intertwined; the story of her life as a gay khmer woman in america, and her mother's life as an immigrant woman who survived genocide. ma wants what is best for put, but cannot accept tha......more

Goodreads review by Pia on December 18, 2021

Ma and Me is a stunning memoir that wrestles with the question of what we owe the people that gave us life. Putsata Reang is barely one year old when her family has to flee Cambodia for America. She only survives the perilous journey because of the hope and determination of her mother who she in tur......more


Awards

  • Lambda Literary Award - Nominee