Calling In, Loretta J Ross
Calling In, Loretta J Ross
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Calling In

Author: Loretta J Ross

Narrator: Loretta J Ross

Unabridged: 8 hr 39 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 02/04/2025


Synopsis

From a pioneering Black feminist and MacArthur “Genius” Fellow, this urgent and exhilarating memoir-manifesto-handbook provides bold, practical new ways to transform conflicts into connections, even with those we’re tempted to walk away from.

In 1979, Loretta Ross was a single mother in Washington who’d had to drop out of Howard University. She was working at the DC Rape Crisis Center when the organization got a letter from a man in prison saying he wanted to learn how to not be a rapist anymore. At first, she was furious. As a survivor of sexual violence, she wanted to write back pouring out her rage. Instead, she made a different choice, a choice to reject the response her trauma was pushing her towards. This choice would set her on the path towards developing a framework that would come to guide her whole career: Rather than calling people out, try to call even your unlikeliest allies in. Hold them accountable—but with love.

Calling In is at once a handbook, a manifesto, and a memoir—because the power of Loretta Ross’s message comes from who she is and what she’s lived through. She’s a Black woman who’s deprogrammed white supremacists, and a survivor who’s taught convicted rapists the principles of feminism. With stories from her five remarkable decades in activism, she vividly illustrates why calling people in—inviting them into conversation instead of conflict and focusing on your shared values over a desire for punishment—is the more strategic choice if you want to make real change. And she shows you how to do so, whether in the workplace, on a college campus, or in your living room.

Courageous, awe-inspiring, and blisteringly authentic, Calling In is a “masterclass in constructive confrontation” (Adam Grant) and a practical new solution from one of our country’s most extraordinary change-makers—one anyone can learn to use to transform frustrating and divisive conflicts that stand in the way of real connection with the people in your life.

About Loretta J Ross

Loretta J. Ross is an activist, professor, and public intellectual. In her five decades in the human rights movement, she’s deprogramed white supremacists, taught convicted rapists the principles of feminism, and co-organized the second largest march on Washington (surpassed only by the 2017 Women’s March). The founder of the National Center for Human Rights Education and a cofounder of the SisterSong Women of Color Reproductive Justice Collective, her many accolades and honors include a 2022 MacArthur Fellowship and a 2024 induction into the National Women’s Hall of Fame. Today, Ross is an associate professor at Smith College in Northampton, Massachusetts, and the founder of LoRossta Consulting, with which she runs “Calling In” training sessions online and for organizations around the country.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Jim on November 13, 2024

I read about poetry because I don’t understand poetry. I read Scott Adams’ Win Bigly because I don’t understand how someone can believe what he believes, and Hillbilly Elegy because I don’t understand how 2016 happened and two people told me it would help (it didn’t and spoiler alert: it makes less......more

Goodreads review by J. Z. on January 21, 2025

I can’t tell if this works better as a memoir than it does as a how-to book or if I’m just autistic. I loved the first four chapters of this book. The subtitle, “How to Start Making Change with Those You’d Rather Cancel,” immediately raised my hackles as someone who’s been a leftist on the internet,......more

Goodreads review by Hannah on February 06, 2025

I think I was less than a quarter into this book when I first texted someone about this book telling them that they needed to read it, a process that was repeated multiple times throughout my reading experience. This was excellent and is something I'd consider required reading for all of us who are......more

Goodreads review by AK on February 13, 2025

best nonfiction book i’ve read in a long time. loretta ross is a wealth of information and experience working in activism, reform, and transformative justice of so many different social issues. i had to stop multiple times and just sit and process some of the ideas and how i can apply them in real li......more

Goodreads review by Shira on March 15, 2025

Calling In is part memoir part self help book focusing on how to approach difficult conversations with compassion. This was a very compelling and accessible read that I wish I could give to everyone before they get on social media (or any group setting to be honest). I really appreciated how raw and......more


Quotes

"Loretta J. Ross delivers her audiobook in an authentic-sounding voice. A longtime activist, Ross provides a detailed discussion on the practice of “calling in” people who need education and support on difficult issues. This is different from “calling out” someone, either in person or on social media, an approach Ross asserts may feel good in the moment but has limited positive impact. Ross is open about her own life experiences and education, which provided insights on how to connect with people where they are. Her work includes group facilitation for incarcerated men and an extended interaction with a former white supremacist. Both are examples of how “calling in” is demanding but meaningful. Ross’s voice reflects the compassion and intellect necessary for this work.'

“A master class in constructive confrontation—and Loretta J. Ross is the ideal teacher, with profound insights about how to get through to others and maintain your own dignity along the way.”
—Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Again and host of the podcast Re:Thinking

“Calling in is far more crucial to human survival than calling out, and Loretta J. Ross has written a personal and political book that proves it! There is no one whose experience I would trust more.”
—Gloria Steinem

“A survival guide for American progressives. If you are on the left and want to make lasting change in our world, please read this book.”
—Amanda Ripley, New York Times bestselling author of High Conflict

“What a refreshing and necessary book. Loretta J. Ross has offered us an escape hatch here—with wisdom, experience, and integrity. We would all do well to follow her lead.”
—Abigail Disney, activist and philanthropist

"A rich and compelling narrative. Courageous, practi­cal and ultimately, very hopeful."
—BookPage (Starred Review)

"With humor and grace, Ross...  offers advice on how to find harmony among those with diametrically opposing viewpoints."
—Booklist

“A highly recommended, necessary read for anyone who finds themself grating against those with different political beliefs. Ross’s book has plenty of potential for discussions and healing relations between friends and family and maybe even strangers.”
Library Journal