Better to Have Gone, Akash Kapur
Better to Have Gone, Akash Kapur
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Better to Have Gone
Love, Death, and the Quest for Utopia in Auroville

Author: Akash Kapur

Narrator: Vikas Adam

Unabridged: 12 hr 38 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 07/20/2021


Synopsis

*Named a Best Book of the Year by The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, CNN, New Statesman, Air Mail, and more * Longlisted for the Chautauqua Prize * Recipient of a Whiting Grant*

A “haunting and elegant” (The Wall Street Journal) story about love, faith, the search for utopia—and the often devastating cost of idealism.

It’s the late 1960s, and two lovers converge on an arid patch of earth in South India. John Walker is the handsome scion of a powerful East Coast American family. Diane Maes is a beautiful hippie from Belgium. They have come to build a new world—Auroville, an international utopian community for thousands of people. Their faith is strong, the future bright.

So how do John and Diane end up dying two decades later, on the same day, on a cracked concrete floor in a thatch hut by a remote canyon? This is the mystery Akash Kapur sets out to solve in Better to Have Gone, and it carries deep personal resonance: Diane and John were the parents of Akash’s wife, Auralice. Akash and Auralice grew up in Auroville; like the rest of their community, they never really understood those deaths.

In 2004, Akash and Auralice return to Auroville from New York, where they have been living with John’s family. As they reestablish themselves in the community, along with their two sons, they must confront the ghosts of those distant deaths. Slowly, they come to understand how the tragic individual fates of John and Diane intersected with the collective history of their town.

“A riveting account of human aspiration and folly taken to extremes” (The Boston Globe), Better to Have Gone probes the underexplored yet universal idea of utopia and portrays in vivid detail the daily life of one such community. Richly atmospheric and filled with remarkable characters, spread across time and continents, this is narrative writing of the highest order—a “gripping…compelling…[and] heartbreaking story, deeply researched and lucidly told” (The New York Times Book Review).

About Akash Kapur

Akash Kapur is the author of India Becoming: A Portrait of Life in Modern India and the editor of an anthology, Auroville: Dream and Reality. He is the former Letter from India columnist for the international New York Times, the recipient of a Whiting Grant, and has written for various leading publications. He grew up in Auroville and returned there to live with his family after boarding school and college in America. 


Reviews

Goodreads review by Lisa of Troy on January 01, 2024

Better to Have Gone is a non-fiction book about a village in India called Auroville. In 1968, the village was founded, and it was a barren land where people from around the world gathered in hopes to create a better society. The Aurovilians are a hard working people with incredible grit and determin......more

Goodreads review by Sophie on November 24, 2022

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Goodreads review by Umar on July 26, 2021

Decently written. Not a very interesting subject matter. It must really suck to be white and wealthy and have a saviors mentality. Pro-tip: all effective cults and communes will seek to monopolize sex and money so you'd be better off developing a gamblers habit and joining a swingers club. There has......more

I have always been interested in learning about different communities and cult type topics. The Farm and Auroville have been ones that I have been intrigued by, so i was super excited to read this. I don't know why it fascinates me to see how things work in these places. It seems so much goes wrong......more

Goodreads review by Sakun on August 31, 2021

Firstly, having lived in Pondicherry in 2003 & 2004, I was privy to the very real drama between Ashramites (residence of the Sri Aurobindo Ashram) & Aurovillians. Although much tapered by that time, that energy of distrust was still there in the air. Many things stood out for me in this book - I'd oft......more


Quotes

"Narrator Vikas Adam is the contemplative voice behind this true story about one family's pair of mysterious deaths. Adam is sober and measured throughout the detailed explanation of John Walker and Diane Maes's arrival in India, and their eventual untimely ends. Fans of journalistic storytelling will be drawn into this overlapping tale of missing parents and the adult children who are exploring the legend behind their demise."