A Change of Habit, Sister Monica Clare
A Change of Habit, Sister Monica Clare
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A Change of Habit
Leaving Behind My Husband, Career, and Everything I Owned to Become a Nun

Author: Sister Monica Clare

Narrator: Sister Monica Clare

Unabridged: 8 hr 50 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 04/29/2025


Synopsis

The soulful, hilarious memoir of a chronic people pleaser who surprised everyone in her life by abandoning an unfulfilling career and marriage to join a convent—and learned how much we stand to gain when we fully embrace our authentic selves

“A Change of Habit follows the arc of Sister Monica Clare’s career with irreverence and sincerity. . . . Her book [confirms] the warmth—and fragility—of her new community.”—The New York Times

In her twenties and thirties, Monica Clare was a talented but exhausted photo editor who spent her days getting yelled at by clients who were often strung out on cocaine and megalomania. For years, the voice calling her to a simpler, quieter life had been getting louder. As a little kid, she’d seen Audrey Hepburn in The Nun’s Story and thought: That’s me. That’s how she found herself straightening her habit nervously as she walked into a convent, preparing to live alongside eleven other sisters who’d taken the same vow of poverty and celibacy . . . indefinitely. Could a chronically fidgety, pop culture–obsessed woman of the world ever fit in? she wondered. And why did the other nuns seem so cold and disapproving?

As the months went on, she realized the other nuns were shy, not unfriendly—much like herself. The culture at the convent discouraged giving compliments or even saying “please” or “thank you,” since acts of generosity were to be freely given and received. But when Monica rose to the role of Sister Superior, she got the policy against compliments changed. Relationships started to blossom, first awkwardly and then more easily. Who would have predicted that Sister Christina, the one she thought had deeply disliked her from the start, would turn out to be a huge hugger? Or that they’d spend entire afternoons trying to keep a wild turkey from running amok in their community garden?

Equal parts tell-all and rallying cry, A Change of Habit reveals how much we can say yes to when we stop laboring to prove our worth to ourselves and others. In her role as a spiritual counselor, Sister Monica guides people from all walks of life toward resisting the false promises of capitalism, finding healing in small acts of nurture and connection, and ultimately, restoring themselves to a place of wholeness, all while living in this gorgeously messy world of ours.

About The Author

Sister Monica Clare is the Sister Superior at the Community of St. John Baptist, an Episcopal convent based in New Jersey, and a spiritual counselor specializing in religious trauma, mental illness, and addiction. Before becoming a nun in 2012, she worked as a photo editor in L.A. and performed in an acoustic rock duo and an improv comedy troupe.


Reviews

Goodreads review by *TUDOR^QUEEN* on February 28, 2025

This is a memoir from an Episcopalian nun on the brink of becoming a priest, currently Superior at her convent in Mendham, NJ. She had a very difficult childhood marked by domestic violence. She was drawn to the book "The Nun's Story" as a child (of which a movie had been made starring Audrey Hepbur......more

Goodreads review by Sheila on December 22, 2024

I received a free copy of, A Change of Habit, by Sister Monica Clare, from the publisher and Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. Monica Clare did not become a nun, until she was in her thirties, but she felt drawn to being a nun, since she was a child. I thought this was an ok, read, I did n......more

Goodreads review by Richard on December 22, 2024

There are times when you sit down with a book that you enter a world of discovery. You discover a new author you love. You discover a story with which you connect. You discover a world that is simultaneously different than yours yet also feels somehow related to your own life experiences. This has h......more

Goodreads review by Glen on January 29, 2025

An interesting read. Meet Claudette, who from the age of five wanted to be a nun. We watch her grow, from a young child, experiencing an atrocious childhood, to a forty something adult, becoming a 'religious' in the episcopal church. Claudette, who became Sister Monica Clare, has little self-esteem,......more

Goodreads review by Judi on April 17, 2025

This memoir is so unique and heartfelt. For me, I was so fascinated I couldn't put this book down ! Sister Monica came from such a sad , poor, and violent background. Even unexpectedly learning compassion for Clyde, whom she could never call Dad. I don't blame her. Instead, I am impressed and inspir......more


Quotes

A Change of Habit follows the arc of Sister Monica Clare’s career with irreverence and sincerity. . . . Her book [confirms] the warmth—and fragility—of her new community.”—The New York Times

“[Sister Monica Clare is] honest, funny, and—one gets the feeling as the pages turn—true. This is a book to remind you that it is never too late to be the person you are meant to be.”—Spirituality & Practice

“An inspiring and hilarious tale of joyful transformation, A Change of Habit will make you laugh, cry, and think deeply about your life. You probably won’t become a nun, but Sister Monica Clare’s remarkable story will show you how to face your struggles, access your courage, and find meaning in life’s most unexpected turns.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

“Sister Monica Clare’s A Change of Habit is a surprising, compelling memoir that will reaffirm your faith in people—and maybe even yourself. With humor, warmth, and deep reverence for the power of that little voice inside, Sister Monica Clare shows us how everyone’s journey might be different, but if you keep the faith and keep listening to yourself—and God—you will arrive at the proper destination. I recommend this book to anyone who feels like a fish out of water or who needs a little love, and a little faith, right now.”—Sister Helen Prejean

aa“A Change of Habit is a boon for all readers who can relate to the feeling of life not turning out as they’d wanted. Clare’s overall message of hope, resiliency, and determination, along with trusting God, resonates regardless of personal beliefs. Poignant, and at times genuinely funny, her story will inspire hope and strength while reminding us that it’s never too late to get where we need to be.”Booklist

“In A Change of Habit, her inspiring, detailed memoir, Sister Monica Clare . . . describes her circuitous, determined path to the convent, from her Southern Baptist roots through years of detours that never derailed her dream. . . . Her open and often humorous memoir concludes as she joyfully anticipates achieving the next steps in living her faith.”—Shelf Awareness, starred review

“[Sister Monica Clare’s] memoir is a testimony of both her steadfast commitment to God and her long, hard struggle to conquer her own demons. A forthright tale of pain and healing.”—Kirkus Reviews

“A poignant and good-humored account of [Sister Monica Clare’s] path toward nunhood . . . This tender autobiography offers encouragement for any reader who’s struggled to find their place in the world.”—Publishers Weekly